How do women stay away from low self-esteem to build confidence?

Low self-esteem may be the problem of most people, but the degree of light or heavy, there are many factors in the formation of low self-esteem psychology, may be their own character caused by external factors can also be caused by the performance of a person with low self-esteem is how? How do we overcome the inferiority complex? Now let us take a specific understanding of the next.

-Make good use of the devil side of women!

Everyone has a devil side, and if this argument makes you uncomfortable, then maybe it means you can’t fully accept yourself. From Marilyn Monroe to Tita Van Tis, sexy women must not always be angels, and it is precisely the angelic mix of that little devil side that makes them so hard to resist.

If you always play the angel, then men will be ashamed of themselves to flee. The devil side of the human heart is also the source of vitality, know how to make good use of the devil side of the woman is really strong woman.

-I won’t guess what’s on his mind!

“What is he thinking?” “Does he still love me?” When the relationship between two people has become “I guess I guess I guess I guess I guess”, women have been passive. Don’t keep wondering what he wants, think more about what you want. In order to love from the open, you must first from the open.

Intimacy is actually a mirror image of ourselves, so you do not let him guess around. Confident women don’t spend all day being suspicious because they know that whenever we are in the world, the only person we can control is ourselves.

-Don’t say sorry for being good!

When women’s “evolution” beyond the speed of men, they look around and find themselves not only earn more than men, and than those who call themselves men’s men have ideas, courage, bear the time, can not help but feel the inner desolation and despondency, as if the woman excellent is also a fault.

So men began to blame the woman more and more unfeminine, and finally even women believe this. If a man makes you feel that your excellence is a sin, then it is better to stay away.

-My beauty is the real upper class beauty!

True confidence is seeing yourself as different, but not being ashamed of being different, but learning to value and appreciate such a uniqueness. If you treat yourself like trash, absolutely no man will treat you like a treasure.

After so many imperfect actresses became famous, actually their wide teeth, big mouths and small eyes became the symbol of charm, which fully shows that teaching others to appreciate your unique beauty, instead of spending money and suffering to make yourself into someone else’s beauty, is the real upper-class beauty.

-Self-High is not mental masturbation!

Screaming is not limited to the sweaty mattress, a woman who can find different pleasure in various things is rich in love, love is not to cure depression, but to add to the pleasure, the one who gives you the greatest pleasure and security may also bring you the greatest angst and pain. Self-High is not mental masturbation, but a cry for personality independence.

-Love you because I am me!

Love is not about giving yourself up to match each other, sacrificing your bottom line in order to keep a high-flying man. Many so-called excellent condition of the man will be extremely superior with their own standards require women to let you so and so, in fact, they love their own standards and not you.

A person who loves their own standards more than anything else is a narcissist who doesn’t know how to love, and such people don’t want it. “I love you, not only because of the way you look; but also, because of the way I look when I am with you.”

How to overcome low self-esteem

A. Positive interaction with others

Most people with low self-esteem are withdrawn, out of touch, and isolate themselves by themselves. Psychologists believe that when people are alone, mental activity turns inward, toward the self. When people with low self-esteem are alone for a long time, the scope and content of their mental activities will become narrower and smaller, coupled with the limitations of their personal understanding, they will make their mental activities one-sided, seeing only their own shortcomings and ignoring their own strengths, thus falling into a deep inferiority complex and unable to extricate themselves.

When you actively interact with others, your attention will be attracted to others, feel the joy and sorrow of others, mental activities will become cheerful. In addition, through interaction with others, you can get to know others and yourself in multiple ways, and through comparison, you can correctly understand yourself, thus adjusting your self-evaluation and improving your self-confidence.

Second, improve self-evaluation focus on self-motivation

Low self-esteem is a psychological disorder caused by low self-evaluation, so an important way to overcome it is to improve self-evaluation and focus on self-motivation. To make a comprehensive and correct analysis of yourself, to see more of their strengths, to often recall your past successes, so as to inspire your self-confidence, and their past failures, to reattribute, do not blame too much of the failure on themselves.

When you are faced with a situation when you feel a lack of confidence, to constantly self-referential, self-motivation: “I will succeed”; “do not be afraid, I am wrong others will not go to laugh at me, they also have failed at times”; “everyone Everyone can do it, why can’t I do it?” I am not worse than them”, “I am not worse than them at all”; “I can do things that were harder than this before, let alone this”. After such a period of exercise, low self-esteem can be reduced or even disappear.

Third, increase the experience of success

Inferiority complex is usually caused by setbacks and failures in self-expression, so it is very important to successfully express oneself and compensate for past failures in order to overcome inferiority complex. It is important to know how to overcome difficulties and exercise your abilities step by step. At the beginning, you should choose those things that are within your reach and grasp as a breakthrough, and strive to succeed in your first action.

The success of the first action means a lot, it breaks the previous situation, makes a turnaround and greatly enhances self-confidence. In addition, do not ignore the small success, because any success will improve the confidence of people, with the increasing experience of success, inferiority complex will gradually be replaced by self-confidence. When you have to say “no” to someone, do you feel guilty? Do you often feel ashamed of your words and actions? Do you always think that others are superior to you? If so, then you are a self-abusive person.

The manifestation of low self-esteem

Excessive shyness

It is normal for children, especially girls, to be slightly shy, but if they are excessively shy (including never daring to sing in front of children, never wanting to show their faces, never daring to touch strangers, etc.), they may have a strong inferiority complex deep inside.

Refusal to make friends

Generally speaking, normal children like to interact with their peers and value friendship, but most children with low self-esteem are either not interested in making friends or see it as a “scourge”.

Difficulty Concentrating

Children with low self-esteem often have difficulty concentrating when studying or playing games, or can only concentrate for short periods of time. This is due to a “lingering” inferiority complex.

Always suspicious

Children with low self-esteem are often very sensitive to comments from parents, teachers, and peers, and especially to criticism from others, which they find difficult to accept and even hold on to. In the long run, they may also develop to the point of “suspicious”, always suspecting that others do not like or blame me.

The signs of low self-esteem include always being suspicious
Excessive praise seeking

Children with low self-esteem, despite feeling “inferior”, often seek praise from parents and teachers more than normal children, and may do so in dishonest and uncomfortable ways, such as faking or cheating on tests.

Demeaning and jealous of others

Another perverse reaction of children with low self-esteem is that they often belittle and envy others, for example, they may gnash their teeth or even stay awake at night because their neighbor’s table is praised by the teacher. Psychologists believe that this is an outlet for their emotions to relieve the psychological pressure of low self-esteem, although it often does not work.

Self-loathing

A large percentage of children with low self-esteem tend to be self-absorbed and unmotivated, believing that I can’t do it anyway and that it’s a waste of effort. Worse still, they may display self-abusive behaviors, such as deliberately running around in the street, going out alone late at night, refusing to seek medical help when they are sick, etc., as if deliberately putting me in danger or in a difficult situation. If I am accused by my parents, I will justify it by saying “I am inferior anyway”.

Avoidance of competition and rivalry

Although some children with low self-esteem are eager to excel in competitions such as exams, sports or recreational contests, they invariably lack the necessary self-confidence in my abilities and conclude that I can never win. As a result, most children with low self-esteem try to avoid participating in any competitions, and although some are encouraged by others to sign up, they often run away and become “deserters” when they officially participate.

Difficulty in coping with frustration or illness

Most of the children with low self-esteem cannot bear the pressure brought by negative factors such as setbacks and illnesses as normal children do, and whenever they encounter small failures or illnesses, they are “in pain”, and sometimes they even find it difficult to cope with accidents such as relocation, death of relatives, or illness of parents.